The Guest is inside you, and also inside me;
You know the sprout is hidden inside the seed.
We are all struggling; none of us has gone far.
Let your arrogance go, and look around inside.
The blue sky opens out farther and farther.
The daily sense of failure goes away,
The damage I have done to myself fades,
A million suns come forward with light,
When I sit firmly in that world.
– Kabir
We wish that every woman who desires to be able to conceive and give birth to a healthy child. It is never too early to adopt a gentle, holistic, natural approach to preparing for the most miraculous event of your life. Making lifestyle choices that reinforce your health at the deepest level can help you avoid unnecessary infertility diagnoses, pregnancy complications and birth trauma.
One way you can help prepare your body is by improving blood flow to the uterus and ovaries. Gentle exercises to open up your body, mind and soul to the life force help you welcome new life into your world, whenever it is time to receive it. Approaching conception consciously and mindfully can help you connect with aspects of the creative life force that you may not yet have experienced.
Learn to check in with yourself. How open and receptive are you? How open and receptive is your world? Write down any feelings-positive or negative-that you may be having regarding trying to conceive. How do you feel about: becoming a parent, being a mom, caring for a child, sharing your spouse, modifying your work load, reducing stress, dealing with your expanding body? If you are ready to start preparing more actively for becoming a parent, keeping conception journal can help you monitor your menstrual cycle before you begin your attempts.
How are you expressing the role of motherhood in your present world? Motherhood is unconditional love, and you do not need to have biological offspring to practice mothering. Do you experience appreciation for new life in your world? Can you honor someone else’s expanding pregnant belly? Can you honor other forms of new life? Do you have a garden? Do you cook? Do you create art? Do you dance? Do you have pets?
Some of the practical ways we express motherhood help prepare our lives for a new child. One of the most difficult aspects of treating infertility is seeing women limit their lives to fighting for a biological child. The more they struggle to conceive, the further away they get from the inherent creative life force within themselves. As you prepare yourself to bring a child into the world, do not let your life come to a screeching halt.
Take qi gong. Go for walks. Take yoga, Meditate. Honor your close, open relationships. Share your feelings with others.
Play well. Eat well. Try to eliminate alcohol, all forms of prescription and over the counter pharmaceutical drugs, coffee (even decaf, but tea is okay), nicotine, and refined carbohydrates. Stay away from preservatives if you can. Include as much locally-grown organic produce in your diet as is practical. Try to eliminate cow’s milk (goat milk is much easier to digest). Stay away from sugar if you can, although don’t deprive yourself for the purpose of childbearing. This will set up a very negative psychic stressor on you and your future child!
The good conception plan is one of abundance. We encourage you to remain open to the creative life force in every way you can- living, loving, and experiencing the inherent joy of life itself.
Our old ways just don’t work anymore. Forcing a baby into an already too stressed life just doesn’t work – for you, for your future family, and for the future of our planet.
Fertility IS life itself. Work with and connect to that which creates life – in you and in your world. Let your soul be fertile!
